“Reaching for the stars, perfectionists may end up clutching at air.”
For perfectionists, life is an endless report card on accomplishments. It’s a fast track to unhappiness, desiring success and focusing on avoiding failure.
You may not meticulously organize the junk draw or a closet full of clothes organized by color, but perfectionist’s traits may still be affecting your life-and holding you back. Do you recognize these habits?
You think in all or nothing terms. You tend to think in one extreme or the other, rather than seeing the characteristics of people and situation existing along a continuum.
You think, then act, in extremes.
You can’t trust others to do a task correctly, so you rarely delegate. Others may see you as a control freak or micromanager, but you just want to get it right.
You have demanding standards for yourself and others. Nothing is worse than looking like a failure!
You have trouble completing a project because there’s always something more you can do to make it better. Others see you as obsessive.
You use the word “should” (a very dangerous word) a lot.
Your self-confidence depends on what you accomplish and how others react to you. You strive for excellence and need the validation to feel good about yourself.
Perfectionism lowers one’s ability to take risks and reduces creativity. It is the blueprint for crafting psychological distress.
So, what’s the antidote? Authenticity. Begin to practice authenticity and let others see you as you exactly as you really are. Begin letting go of the protective shield of perfectionism, Authenticity is a practice and you choose it everyday, sometimes every hour.
“Have the courage to be yourself.”
“Don’t trade your authenticity for approval.”
“Less perfection. Ore authenticity.”
More on how to practice authenticity next time!