I recently came across an article by Kelly Fitzpatrick, www.greatistcom, called Lone Wovles Are Not Weird Wovles. Her topic resonated with me and I wonder if it might do the same for you? Kelly discusses the difference between preferring to spent some time alone and feeling lonely. Lately I find myself preferring to spend time on my own. It boosts my creativity and improves my closest relationships. That contrasts with feeling lonely when you’re alone; that kind of solitude results is sadness and ultimately might s a health risk.
Alone time is a pretty difficult to achieve. You have to be willing to unplug from cell phones, email, and social media. Psychologists define ‘solitude’ as a state of being alone with no one else to communicate with-not be confused with loneliness, or the feeling of being disconnected from other and longing for connection. In other words, it is completely possible to sit in a room, or lie on your bed in an empty room without feeling lonely.
Some experts suggest that solo time can be helpful at work and lead to more productivity. Many relationship experts agree that one or both partners may need some alone time for a romantic relationship to flourish.
Loneliness results from being alone when you really want to connect with others. There’s a good reason to combat those solo blues. Loneliness is linked to depression and anxiety. It is also associated with poor sleep habits, high blood pressure and weaker immune responses.
Unfortunately, there’s no one size fits all prescription for the amount of alone time we need. But there are ways to make sure that privacy doesn’t turn into loneliness. I suggest you might avoid using technology exclusively and call a friend to have coffee or dinner.
In closing, Kelly says the value of solo time depends on the individual. One person’s lame Friday night might be another’s ideal opportunity to fly solo.